I am truly frustrated by the way my teenage children behave with me．It is a roller coaster（过山车）ride each day coping with their moodiness and argumentative nature．But I do appreciate the courage they project at times and goals they undertake that make me feel that they really aim high in life．"This could be the feeling of most parents with teenage children．

I can understand and empathize with these parents，but they are not alone．Children start their journey into the broad world and are greatly influenced by what others have to say especially their peers that they consider more close than even their parents and family at times．

The brains teenagers or children in the ages of 13to 19undergo（经历）a lot of changes that bring about these effects that most parents like us fail to understand．One of the prominent changes is what takes place due to the beneficial pruning （修剪）that takes place in the neutral branches of the prefrontal cortex（前额皮质）．All these changes ultimately help build clear judgment，plan and control impulses skills．

It is best that we just recollect how we behaved as a teenager and you would definitely come across some of our mums that support their teenage grandchildren and say we were much worse．I can empathize with such parents as probably our parents are getting a chance to air out their feelings that they could probably never do when we were teenagers．（ taking a positive look by realizing that it is a part of the growing process would help．）

We may tell our teenage children to have confidence in their abilities and not be influenced by what others say of them，but this anxiety of what society says of them can be overwhelming．It could be real enormous pressure that teens can never come about telling parents，but it would pay to build up trustworthy relationships with them．This would help keep a watch and monitor some of their inappropriate activities and avoid their getting into trouble due to peer pressure and em